{"id":107,"date":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","date_gmt":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=107"},"modified":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","modified_gmt":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","slug":"ist-es-sinnvoll-dies-zu-kontrollieren","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/de\/ist-es-sinnvoll-dies-zu-kontrollieren\/","title":{"rendered":"Ist es sinnvoll, dies zu kontrollieren?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ich bearbeite derzeit den Kurs \"Perfektionismus\" von Thais Gibson<\/a>. Sie empfiehlt, sich zu fragen, ob das, was wir zu kontrollieren versuchen, tats\u00e4chlich unter unserer vern\u00fcnftigen Kontrolle steht. Und wenn nicht, sollten wir aufh\u00f6ren, sie kontrollieren zu wollen - und uns dem Ergebnis hingeben. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Als getriebene, perfektionistische Menschen haben wir vielleicht das Gef\u00fchl, dass \"nichts unm\u00f6glich ist\", und versuchen, die Beziehungen zu anderen Menschen zu l\u00f6sen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Immer wieder scheitern und nach neuen Wegen suchen, damit es \"funktioniert\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zum Beispiel zieht sich die Frau, f\u00fcr die ich Gef\u00fchle hege, zur\u00fcck - und ich frage mich, ob ich etwas falsch mache, was ich \u00e4ndern sollte und wie ich \"die Informationen von ihr bekomme, die ich brauche, um mich anzupassen\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mal ganz abgesehen davon, dass das Problem vielleicht gar nicht auf meiner Seite liegt (ich verhalte mich sehr vern\u00fcnftig, geduldig, freundlich usw.). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trotzdem ist mein Gedanke: \"Wenn ich nur w\u00fcsste, woran es liegt, k\u00f6nnte ich die Dinge \u00e4ndern, verbessern und in Ordnung bringen\".<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aber ist es etwas, das ich kontrollieren kann?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ist das WISSEN, was es ist, etwas, das ich kontrollieren kann? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wenn sie nicht von sich aus mit mir teilen und auf den Aufbau einer Beziehung hinarbeiten will, kann ich das kontrollieren? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nein. Das liegt au\u00dferhalb meiner Kontrolle. Sie wei\u00df, dass ich interessiert bin. Ich habe also meinen Teil getan.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ich habe auch gefragt, ob es richtig ist, ihr Raum zu geben, wenn sie sich zur\u00fcckzieht (sie hat nicht geantwortet). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Das Einzige, was mir noch bleibt, ist, zu kapitulieren. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ich will mich hingeben und meine Bed\u00fcrfnisse auf andere Weise als durch eine Fantasiebeziehung befriedigen. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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