{"id":197,"date":"2022-01-07T06:55:19","date_gmt":"2022-01-07T06:55:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=197"},"modified":"2022-01-07T06:55:20","modified_gmt":"2022-01-07T06:55:20","slug":"um-mein-ziel-zu-erreichen-muss-sich-die-andere-person-andern","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/de\/um-mein-ziel-zu-erreichen-muss-sich-die-andere-person-andern\/","title":{"rendered":"Um mein Ziel zu erreichen, muss sich die andere Person \u00e4ndern"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Wenn ich sie nur dazu bringen k\u00f6nnte, sich ein bisschen mehr zu \u00f6ffnen\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Sie sind immer so distanziert\" oder \"Sie sind immer an mir dran, k\u00f6nnen sie mich nicht in Ruhe lassen?\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Es scheint, als w\u00fcrde sich die Welt f\u00fcr Sie in Regenbogen und Sonnenschein verwandeln, wenn sich nur diese andere Person \u00e4ndern w\u00fcrde. Sie w\u00fcrden auf magische Weise alle Ihre Ziele erreichen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Erwachen<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Denken Sie daran: Das sind Ihr <\/strong>Ziele, nicht die Ziele der anderen Person. Sie werden also nur \u00e4ndern <\/strong>zu erreichen ihre eigenen Ziele<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wenn Ihre Ziele zuf\u00e4llig mit deren Zielen \u00fcbereinstimmen - dann wird der Zauber geschehen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wenn es Ihnen sonst irgendwie gelingt, sie zu zwingen, zu beschwatzen oder zu \u00fcberzeugen, sich zu \u00e4ndern, wird das zu Unmut f\u00fchren. Und ein Mangel an Durchsetzungsverm\u00f6gen. Ver\u00e4rgerung auf beiden Seiten. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Die Ver\u00e4nderung liegt im <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Die Ver\u00e4nderung muss in Ihnen selbst stattfinden. Anstatt die andere Person \u00e4ndern zu wollen (\"mein Staatsanwalt muss lernen, n\u00e4her zu kommen\"), fragen Sie sich: Welches Ziel wollen Sie erreichen? Welche Mittel setzen Sie daf\u00fcr ein? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Der Versuch, andere Menschen zu \u00e4ndern, ist ein sehr ineffektives Mittel. Es liegt nicht in Ihrer Verantwortung, und in den meisten F\u00e4llen ist es unm\u00f6glich, andere Menschen wirksam zu \u00e4ndern. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Denken Sie daran: Sie haben ihre eigenen Lebenserfahrungen gemacht, und die Entscheidungen, die sie treffen, und die Gr\u00fcnde daf\u00fcr beruhen auf der Logik ihrer Erfahrungen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Es ist nicht m\u00f6glich, Ihre Erfahrungen direkt zu \u00fcbertragen und sie f\u00fcr sie real werden zu lassen. Sie k\u00f6nnen nur insofern mit Ihnen in Resonanz gehen, als sie auch \u00e4hnliche Erfahrungen gemacht haben. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

F\u00fcr meine Freunde mit Kontrollzwang<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Beruhigen Sie sich, indem Sie die Kontrolle \u00fcber eine Situation \u00fcbernehmen? Oder haben Sie das Gef\u00fchl, dass die maximale Kontrolle \u00fcber eine Situation hilft, sie zu bew\u00e4ltigen und Sie zu sch\u00fctzen? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zeit zum Loslassen. Dies ist ein unwirksamer \"Hammer\", der empfindliche Beziehungen zerst\u00f6ren kann. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Niemand mag es, kontrolliert zu werden (au\u00dfer den BDSM-Leuten, nehme ich an). Ja, die Menschen wollen gef\u00fchrt werden, aber sie wollen nicht \u00fcber ein bestimmtes Ma\u00df hinaus eingeschr\u00e4nkt werden. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wenn Sie es mit der Kontrolle \u00fcbertreiben, werden Sie die Kontrolle verlieren. Das ist die Natur des Spiels, Leute!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Foto von Piotr Wilk<\/a> auf Unsplash<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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