{"id":107,"date":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","date_gmt":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=107"},"modified":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","modified_gmt":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","slug":"es-razonable-intentar-controlar-este","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/es\/es-razonable-intentar-controlar-este\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfEs razonable intentar controlar esto?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Actualmente estoy trabajando en el curso \"Perfeccionismo\" de Thais Gibson<\/a>. Recomienda preguntarse si lo que intentamos controlar est\u00e1 realmente dentro de nuestro control razonable. Y si no es as\u00ed, dejar de intentar controlarlo y rendirse al resultado. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Como personas impulsivas y perfeccionistas, podemos sentir que \"nada es imposible\", y tratar de resolver las relaciones con otras personas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fracasar repetidamente y buscar nuevas formas de \"hacer que funcione\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por ejemplo, la mujer por la que siento algo se est\u00e1 retirando, y yo me pregunto, si soy yo quien est\u00e1 haciendo algo mal, qu\u00e9 debo cambiar y c\u00f3mo \"obtener de ella la informaci\u00f3n que necesito para ajustar\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dejando de lado por un momento que el problema podr\u00eda no estar de mi parte en absoluto (me estoy comportando de forma muy razonable, paciente, amable, etc). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Todav\u00eda mi pensamiento es: \"Si supiera lo que es, podr\u00eda cambiar y mejorar \/ arreglar las cosas\".<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfPero es algo que puedo controlar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfSaber lo que es es algo que puedo controlar? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si ella no quiere compartir conmigo por voluntad propia, y trabajar para construir una relaci\u00f3n, \u00bfes algo que puedo controlar? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No. Esto est\u00e1 m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de mi control razonable. Ella sabe que estoy interesado. As\u00ed he hecho mi parte.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tambi\u00e9n he preguntado, si darle espacio cuando se retrae es lo correcto (no me ha contestado). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As\u00ed que lo \u00fanico que me queda es rendirme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Entregarme, y empezar a satisfacer mis necesidades de una manera diferente a la de una relaci\u00f3n de fantas\u00eda. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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