{"id":109,"date":"2021-10-02T15:13:02","date_gmt":"2021-10-02T15:13:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=109"},"modified":"2021-10-02T15:14:33","modified_gmt":"2021-10-02T15:14:33","slug":"oir-el-no-en-el-tal-vez","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/es\/oir-el-no-en-el-tal-vez\/","title":{"rendered":"Escuchar el \"no\" en el \"tal vez\""},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Cuando estamos enamorados de alguien, nos centramos en el \"s\u00ed\" del \"quiz\u00e1s\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hoy, para m\u00ed, tambi\u00e9n es hora de escuchar el \"no\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mi inter\u00e9s amoroso y yo, tenemos un ciclo que funciona de la siguiente manera:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>se disculpa por el largo retraso en el que no tuve noticias suyas (durante el cual le di espacio)<\/li><li>empezamos a interactuar de nuevo - le env\u00edo algunas fotos a veces, charlamos sobre diferentes cosas, trato de mantener la luz sobre todo<\/li><li>tal vez le pida que nos pongamos al d\u00eda por tel\u00e9fono (ella vive en Estados Unidos y yo en Alemania, as\u00ed que no solemos vernos)<\/li><li>incluso podr\u00eda decir: \"Claro, sugiera una hora\"<\/li><li>Sugiero un tiempo<\/li><li>No tengo noticias de ella - tal vez lea el \u00faltimo mensaje, tal vez no (lo deja en no le\u00eddo)<\/li><li>Le doy espacio<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Hoy me he sentido de nuevo deprimido por esto y he ido a visitar la tumba de mis abuelos. Nada como un cementerio para recordarte que todos los asuntos y problemas son relativos, y que la vida es muy corta... <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>En el camino, se me ocurri\u00f3 una idea, que me gustar\u00eda compartir hoy aqu\u00ed:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>No puede sentir el amor de la forma en que se lo presento, porque nunca lo aprendi\u00f3.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cuando se retira, es realmente <strong>porque ella <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\" class=\"underline\">percibe <\/span>mis acciones como negativas \/ amenazantes <\/strong>\/ ve m\u00e1s inconvenientes en mi comportamiento. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No hay nada que pueda hacer (nada que ella me haya comunicado de todos modos) para cambiar eso: <strong>Es un problema de percepci\u00f3n por su parte<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Con su comportamiento me demuestra que no necesita \"m\u00e1s de eso\". No, se retrae, me da largas. <strong>Ella me muestra, que esto no es bueno para ella.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Y este es el \"no\" del que hablo. No se expresa con palabras (aunque ella hab\u00eda rechazado un regalo de cumplea\u00f1os m\u00edo), se expresa con acciones. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Aunque ella est\u00e1 en conflicto con esto, y me est\u00e1 enviando mensajes mixtos (smileys con corazones, etc.) - esto es un fuerte no de su parte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Un no quiz\u00e1s basado en su pasado traum\u00e1tico, pero un <strong>no <\/strong>que tengo que escuchar y que tengo que respetar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Porque nada va a cambiar, y yo y mi amor no encajamos en la cerradura que \"abrir\u00e1 su coraz\u00f3n\". Triste, pero cierto. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si te encuentras en una situaci\u00f3n similar, te sugiero que veas si se trata de un patr\u00f3n - o de algo puntual. Si se trata de un patr\u00f3n c\u00edclico de retraimiento, entonces tal vez tu inter\u00e9s amoroso tambi\u00e9n tiene un \"no\" dentro de su tal vez, y necesitan hacer un trabajo en su lado antes de que se convierta en un fuerte s\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ahora pienso sacar este tema con ella, cuando vuelva a reiniciar nuestro ciclo, para ser justo conmigo mismo, y dejar de ser una amenaza para ella.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S\u00f3lo le ofrecer\u00e9 amistad, hasta que se convierta en un fuerte \"s\u00ed\" por su parte. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pienso volver a salir con otras mujeres, una vez que se le haya hecho esta oferta. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When we are in love with someone, we focus on the &#8220;yes&#8221; in the &#8220;maybe&#8221;. Today, for me, it is time to hear the &#8220;no&#8221;, as well. 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