{"id":134,"date":"2021-11-13T08:49:25","date_gmt":"2021-11-13T08:49:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=134"},"modified":"2021-11-13T08:52:06","modified_gmt":"2021-11-13T08:52:06","slug":"estilos-de-apego-inseguro-y-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/es\/estilos-de-apego-inseguro-y-control\/","title":{"rendered":"Estilos de apego inseguro y control"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>He tenido otra de estas percepciones. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Todos queremos alcanzar ciertos objetivos y, esencialmente, controlar nuestras emociones. Algunas personas utilizan m\u00e9todos directos para lograrlo, por ejemplo, estableciendo l\u00edmites y desvincul\u00e1ndose de las personas que no respetan los l\u00edmites. (De este modo, se establece un l\u00edmite m\u00e1s duro). Y asoci\u00e1ndose con personas que son seguras y proporcionan un amor constante (porque son intr\u00ednsecamente capaces de hacerlo). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Otras personas han aprendido en su infancia que no es seguro poner l\u00edmites. Que los l\u00edmites ser\u00e1n ignorados. O posiblemente, que otras personas cuando se acercan demasiado <strong>will<\/strong> les abruma. As\u00ed que se retraen (evasores displicentes) - y <strong>controlar <\/strong>la cercan\u00eda y su ansiedad que esta cercan\u00eda provoca al retirarse. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Otros han aprendido que tienen que ser extremadamente agresivos y manipuladores para conseguir las atenciones de los dem\u00e1s. Mi (\u00fanica hasta ahora) ex-novia ha intentado ponerme celoso, por ejemplo. No funcion\u00f3 como ella pretend\u00eda... (apego ansioso). Tambi\u00e9n intentan <strong>controlar <\/strong>la cercan\u00eda. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Esencialmente todo esto es sobre el control.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Y <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\" class=\"underline\">no<\/span> control de la otra persona, como ingenuamente se podr\u00eda suponer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Esto es sobre el control <strong>de nuestros propios estados emocionales. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Darse cuenta de esto realmente hace que sea m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil dejarlo ir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dejar ir las situaciones que ya no nos sirven (como dir\u00edan los tailandeses). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vamos, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=oonHquCgFl4\">ponte algo m\u00e1s c\u00f3modo<\/a>. Deja de lado lo que no puedes controlar de todos modos: otra persona. Elige ver la situaci\u00f3n tal y como es. Deja que tus miedos descansen. Ellos han tenido su opini\u00f3n, ahora hay que mirar hacia adelante. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>R\u00edndete. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Y no se olvide de los l\u00edmites: el <strong>control real <\/strong>que tienes. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve had another one of these insights. We all want to achieve certain goals, and essentially control our emotions. Some people use direct methods to do this &#8211; for example by setting boundaries, and dissociating from people who disrespect the boundaries. (Thereby essentially setting a harder boundary). 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