{"id":149,"date":"2021-12-05T10:00:14","date_gmt":"2021-12-05T10:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=149"},"modified":"2021-12-05T10:00:15","modified_gmt":"2021-12-05T10:00:15","slug":"no-se-trata-de-ti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/es\/no-se-trata-de-ti\/","title":{"rendered":"No se trata de ti"},"content":{"rendered":"

Soy miembro de la Escuela de Desarrollo Personal, y tambi\u00e9n de su grupo oficial de Facebook. Diferentes miembros publican sobre sus vidas y relaciones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una historia que alguien ha publicado hoy (que no voy a contar, para respetar su privacidad) me ha recordado mi propia situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una situaci\u00f3n en la que estoy con \"mi\" inter\u00e9s amoroso de la DA.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u00e1sicamente, no responde a algunas preguntas o deja que las conversaciones se desv\u00eden. Me he devanado los sesos buscando soluciones, pero al final tengo que aceptar que la soluci\u00f3n es reconsiderar mi elecci\u00f3n de mujeres<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En la infancia, tenemos que lidiar con nuestros padres tal y como son. No hay alternativa (como \"elegir otros padres\"). Algunos tendemos a trasladar eso a nuestras parejas sentimentales, y nos aferramos a situaciones que no nos convienen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En mi caso, no siento el progreso y crecimiento <\/strong>en la conexi\u00f3n con mi inter\u00e9s amoroso DA. El crecimiento es muy importante para m\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

He intentado avivar las llamas a mi manera, pero parece que me estoy acercando demasiado a ella para que se sienta c\u00f3moda al respecto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As\u00ed que ella restablece el equilibrio retirando<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En otras palabras, le estoy pidiendo que me d\u00e9 algo que no puede. (Al menos en este momento). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero no se trata de m\u00ed y de que no me presente correctamente \/ haga algo mal. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se trata de mi elecci\u00f3n, de elegir permanecer en una situaci\u00f3n en la que la mujer no est\u00e1 interesada \/ es capaz de lo que me gustar\u00eda \"de ella\". (Una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica mutuamente satisfactoria). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No est\u00e1 disponible emocionalmente. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tiene miedo de abrirse. A estas alturas, deber\u00eda haber demostrado que soy un tipo seguro con el que estar, que no la presiono, que acepto y respeto cuando necesita tiempo para s\u00ed misma. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No es suficiente, porque su programaci\u00f3n particular - su pasado, sus experiencias, le dicen que se aleje de m\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No se trata de m\u00ed, sino de su propio pasado. Y yo no puedo cambiar ese pasado (al menos no directamente, la gente PUEDE reprogramar sus recuerdos).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No se trata de m\u00ed, no se trata de algo que yo est\u00e9 haciendo. No es \"mi culpa\", no est\u00e1 bajo mi control<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lo \u00fanico que est\u00e1 bajo mi control es comunicar mis necesidades y elegir parejas que sean receptivas a esta comunicaci\u00f3n y est\u00e9n interesadas en satisfacer las necesidades de forma equilibrada y mutuamente satisfactoria. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un matrimonio con mi inter\u00e9s amoroso de DA (algo en lo que estoy pensando m\u00e1s estos d\u00edas, debido a mi edad) parece poco probable en este momento. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Realmente le deseo lo mejor y seguir\u00e9 apoy\u00e1ndola en la medida de mis posibilidades. Porque en el fondo me sigue importando. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En cierto modo, ella es un reflejo de m\u00ed, de la ocultaci\u00f3n del amor. Los dos somos iguales.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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