Cuando tiene dolor, no debe querer causarme dolor, sino buscar resolver el dolor<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nTodas las discusiones cl\u00e1sicas, etc. que vemos en las pel\u00edculas, tienen su origen en el dolor de una persona. Pero en lugar de comunicar su dolor y las razones para ello, lo empeoran causando dolor a la otra persona. De este modo, la otra persona ve a la persona que sufre como una fuente de dolor y trata de retirarse o reaccionar para aliviar su dolor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
La comunicaci\u00f3n es la clave, como siempre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Un ejemplo de c\u00f3mo no hacerlo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
S\u00f3lo he tenido una relaci\u00f3n muy breve en mi vida hasta ahora: Luc\u00eda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Me fui a la India durante la relaci\u00f3n, y me encontr\u00e9 con el deseo de distanciarme de ella (\"Encontrar\u00e9 a alguien mejor, ...\"). <\/p>\n\n\n\n
No estoy orgulloso de ello, pero as\u00ed corr\u00eda mi mente; creo que en la ra\u00edz est\u00e1 el deseo de autoprotegerse de toda relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
En cualquier caso, recog\u00ed un regalo para ella en la India: un oso de peluche con un coraz\u00f3n en las manos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Quer\u00eda regal\u00e1rselo el d\u00eda de San Valent\u00edn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Para burlarse de ella, cuando nos pusimos en contacto por Skype m\u00e1s tarde (yo hab\u00eda vuelto a Alemania en ese momento), le dije que el regalo estaba en la bolsa peque\u00f1a. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Adivin\u00f3 correctamente lo que era y realmente se molest\u00f3 por ello y dijo: \"\u00a1\u00bfTodo lo que me vas a regalar por San Valent\u00edn es un peque\u00f1o oso de peluche?!\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ella quer\u00eda un Saree (pero no me lo pidi\u00f3 directamente<\/strong>), y se sinti\u00f3 decepcionado por no haber tra\u00eddo uno para ella. <\/p>\n\n\n\nSi me hubiera pedido que le trajera un Saree, lo habr\u00eda hecho. (La \u00fanica forma en que podr\u00eda haberlo adivinado es porque una vez dijo \"me gustan los Sarees\").<\/p>\n\n\n\n
BTW. mientras escribo esto, tambi\u00e9n es un buen recordatorio para M\u00cd mismo para comunicar muy directamente a otras personas lo que necesito \/ lo que me gustar\u00eda. Para al menos darles la oportunidad de satisfacer mi necesidad, en lugar de que ellos perciban las cosas s\u00f3lo como informaci\u00f3n aleatoria <\/strong>Lo comparto. <\/p>\n\n\n\nseguridad emocional y peticiones<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
En el caso de mi ex-novia Luc\u00eda, se sinti\u00f3 decepcionada porque \"s\u00f3lo hab\u00eda tra\u00eddo un peque\u00f1o oso de peluche\". Ca\u00ed brevemente en la trampa de intentar complacerla, y le compr\u00e9 un collar caro. (Le dije: \"Por supuesto que no es lo \u00fanico que te iba a regalar\" -lo cual era mentira, era lo \u00fanico que pensaba regalarle- en el restaurante donde se supon\u00eda que ten\u00edamos nuestra cita).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
No terminamos de reunirnos el d\u00eda de San Valent\u00edn (ella no pudo). Le envi\u00e9 flores y, por suerte, pude devolverle el collar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nos separamos poco despu\u00e9s. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nEstaba sufriendo y quer\u00eda que yo aliviara ese dolor. Pero en lugar de eso, me apart\u00f3, por comunicar desde el dolor<\/strong>y queriendo que yo compartir ese dolor<\/strong>para que yo cambie las cosas. <\/p>\n\n\n\nLa idea err\u00f3nea en este caso es que s\u00f3lo causando dolor a tu pareja conseguir\u00e1s que la otra persona haga algo por ti, y permita empatizar contigo.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nEse no es el enfoque correcto, al menos en mi caso. Si algo me causa dolor, tratar\u00e9 de protegerme de ello retir\u00e1ndome. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Especialmente, como en este caso, he intentado hacer algo bueno por ella y he sido \"castigado\" por ello. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
El equilibrio emocional es algo que hay que trabajar, pero merece la pena. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Suceden cosas m\u00e1gicas cuando te comunicas sin tratar de causar dolor a la otra persona, sino que simplemente le dejas ver que te duele, y te muestras vulnerable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
No me hagas empezar con el sarcasmo... Soy un alma sensible en ese sentido. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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