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Rien de tel qu'un cimeti\u00e8re pour vous rappeler que toutes les questions et tous les probl\u00e8mes sont relatifs, et que la vie est tr\u00e8s courte ... <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>En chemin, il m'est venu une id\u00e9e que je voudrais partager ici aujourd'hui :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Elle ne peut pas ressentir l'amour de la fa\u00e7on dont je le lui pr\u00e9sente, parce qu'elle n'a jamais appris \u00e0 le faire.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quand elle se retire, c'est v\u00e9ritablement <strong>parce qu'elle <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\" class=\"underline\">per\u00e7oit <\/span>mes actions comme n\u00e9gatives \/ mena\u00e7antes <\/strong>\/ Je vois plus d'inconv\u00e9nients \u00e0 mon comportement. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Il n'y a rien que je puisse faire (rien qu'elle m'ait communiqu\u00e9 en tout cas) pour changer cela : <strong>C'est une question de perception de son c\u00f4t\u00e9.<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Par son comportement, elle me montre qu'elle n'a pas besoin de \"plus de \u00e7a\". 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