{"id":113,"date":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","date_gmt":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=113"},"modified":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","modified_gmt":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","slug":"ton-desir-nest-pas-mon-desir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/fr\/ton-desir-nest-pas-mon-desir\/","title":{"rendered":"Votre d\u00e9sir n'est pas mon d\u00e9sir"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hier, j'ai re\u00e7u un candidat \u00e0 l'emploi, qui est ouvertement tr\u00e8s enthousiaste \u00e0 l'id\u00e9e de rejoindre l'entreprise et qui veut vraiment faire bonne impression. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il a propos\u00e9 de faire des services suppl\u00e9mentaires et d'aider \u00e0 d'autres choses en dehors de l'entreprise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je me retrouve \u00e0 r\u00e9sister \u00e0 sa candidature et \u00e0 son int\u00e9r\u00eat pour le poste. Je cherche des probl\u00e8mes, en fait. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je me dis qu'il n'est pas assez qualifi\u00e9. Et peut-\u00eatre, en effet, qu'il l'est. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mais ce que je veux dire ici, c'est que son d\u00e9sir\/int\u00e9r\u00eat exag\u00e9r\u00e9 pour le poste est en fait un repoussoir. Une sorte de drapeau rouge, si vous voulez... <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il se trompe lourdement en disant \"Je dois juste communiquer suffisamment mon d\u00e9sir, et ensuite j'obtiendrai le poste\". Non, c'est moi qui dois avoir envie de l'employer.<\/strong>. Je dois voir les avantages qu'il y a \u00e0 le faire pour... moi-m\u00eame<\/strong>. Je dois me convaincre que c'est un \"trop bon parti pour le perdre\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je dois comprendre ce qui est \"dans mon int\u00e9r\u00eat\". Je comprends qu'il veut le poste, que cela a du sens pour lui et qu'il aimerait vraiment travailler ici. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Je pense qu'il y a un avantage \u00e0 ce qu'un candidat soit int\u00e9ress\u00e9 et veuille le poste. Mais l'avantage ne l'emporte pas sur sa (perception - par moi) capacit\u00e9s<\/strong>et mes pr\u00e9visions quant \u00e0 sa capacit\u00e9 \u00e0 g\u00e9rer le type de travail que je cherche \u00e0 lui confier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Transposition aux relations amoureuses<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e9duire une femme en lui disant \"Je t'aime\" et en lui exprimant ce qu'elle repr\u00e9sente pour vous ne vous m\u00e8nera qu'\u00e0 mi-chemin. Ce n'est pas une strat\u00e9gie qui, \"mont\u00e9e \u00e0 11\", vous \"obtiendra\" la femme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Non. En effet, la femme cherche \u00e0 satisfaire certains besoins - et une fois qu'elle aura per\u00e7u que ces besoins seront satisfaits par vous, et que vous \u00eates le meilleur homme pour ce travail, elle vous \"engagera\" comme petit ami. Elle tombera amoureuse de vous.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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