{"id":33,"date":"2021-08-24T09:39:03","date_gmt":"2021-08-24T09:39:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=33"},"modified":"2021-08-25T08:06:13","modified_gmt":"2021-08-25T08:06:13","slug":"limites-dans-les-relations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/fr\/limites-dans-les-relations\/","title":{"rendered":"Les limites dans les relations"},"content":{"rendered":"

Les relations existent pour une raison. Elles sont une forme de soutien mutuel, qui permet de mieux affronter ensemble les temp\u00eates de la vie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En tant que tels, ils doivent r\u00e9pondre aux besoins des individus dans la relation. ils doivent mieux r\u00e9pondre aux besoins<\/strong>que chaque individu dans la relation serait en mesure de les satisfaire lui-m\u00eame par ses propres moyens !<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nous devrions garder cela \u00e0 l'esprit lorsque les relations \u00e9chouent\/se brisent : cela signifie que les besoins n'ont pas \u00e9t\u00e9 satisfaits ! (Bien s\u00fbr, la m\u00eame chose se produit lorsque les gens trichent - ils cherchent \u00e0 satisfaire leurs besoins, par exemple l'attention, \u00eatre sp\u00e9cial, etc. qui ne sont pas satisfaits dans la relation principale).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La plus grande trag\u00e9die est que ces ruptures auraient pu \u00eatre \u00e9vit\u00e9es par une meilleure communication.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

En fixant des limites.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fixer des limites : il s'agit de communiquer sur ce dont vous avez besoin et ce dont vous n'avez pas besoin. Ce qui te nuit, ce qui te profite. Ce que vous attendez. Ce dont vous avez besoin pour \u00eatre heureux dans une relation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il est si important de communiquer cela ! C'est parfois si difficile, semble-t-il. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il se peut que nous ayons retenu de situations pass\u00e9es que la mise en place de limites n'\u00e9tait pas souhaitable - parce que les personnes auxquelles nous avons essay\u00e9 de fixer ces limites ont senti que leurs besoins \u00e9taient menac\u00e9s, et ont agi en cons\u00e9quence (en nous serrant la bride pour que nous fixions des limites, au lieu de se rendre compte qu'elles cherchent \u00e0 cr\u00e9er une situation sans gagnant). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Abandonner les limites est une tr\u00e8s inefficace <\/strong>\u00e0 faire. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

L'exc\u00e8s de g\u00e9n\u00e9rosit\u00e9 entra\u00eene du ressentiment et des attentes croissantes de la part de l'autre personne. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En fait, je travaille en ce moment sur la phobie de l'engagement (sp\u00e9cifiquement \u00e0 l'\u00e9gard des femmes), et je constate que ma peur de fixer des limites avec les femmes (et donc de les blesser - en me mettant en danger de cette mani\u00e8re) m'emp\u00eache d'avoir des relations. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(\"Rien \u00e0 foutre, tant que je ne peux pas fixer de limites, je ne me lance pas dans une relation.\")<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mais c'est un probl\u00e8me que je cr\u00e9e moi-m\u00eame en ne fixant pas ces limites en premier lieu. En n'acceptant pas qu'elles DOIVENT \u00eatre fix\u00e9es, afin d'avoir une relation saine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

J'ai la bonne id\u00e9e de ne pas vouloir avoir de relations malsaines et sans limites. Mais je ne donne m\u00eame pas \u00e0 ces femmes une chance de respecter mes limites. Je les fuis simplement, en supposant que toutes les femmes ne respecteront pas mes limites (et que je ne peux rien y faire). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quelles sont vos pens\u00e9es sur ceci, lecteur doux ? Pensez-vous que chaque femme ne respectera pas les fronti\u00e8res honn\u00eates ? Pensez-vous que ceux qui font, \u00e0 plusieurs reprises, peut montrer pour la relation de la fa\u00e7on dont il exige d'eux \u00e0 ?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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