{"id":107,"date":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","date_gmt":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=107"},"modified":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","modified_gmt":"2021-09-25T16:21:04","slug":"e-ragionevole-cercare-di-controllare-questo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/it\/e-ragionevole-cercare-di-controllare-questo\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c8 ragionevole cercare di controllare questo?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Attualmente sto lavorando al corso \"Perfezionismo\" di Thais Gibson<\/a>. Raccomanda di indagare se la cosa particolare che stiamo cercando di controllare \u00e8 effettivamente sotto il nostro ragionevole controllo. E se non lo \u00e8, smettere di cercare di controllarla - e arrendersi al risultato. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Come persone guidate e perfezioniste, potremmo sentire che \"niente \u00e8 impossibile\", e cercare di risolvere le relazioni con le altre persone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fallire ripetutamente e cercare nuovi modi per \"farlo funzionare\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Per esempio, la donna per cui provo dei sentimenti si sta ritirando - e mi ritrovo a chiedermi, se sono io che sto facendo qualcosa di sbagliato, cosa dovrei cambiare, e come \"ottenere da lei le informazioni di cui ho bisogno per aggiustare\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lasciando da parte per un momento il fatto che il problema potrebbe non essere affatto dalla mia parte (mi sto comportando in modo molto ragionevole, paziente, amichevole ecc.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ancora il mio pensiero \u00e8: \"Se solo sapessi cos'\u00e8, potrei cambiare e migliorare \/ aggiustare le cose\".<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma \u00e8 qualcosa che posso controllare?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sapere cos'\u00e8 \u00e8 qualcosa che posso controllare? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se lei non vuole condividere con me di sua iniziativa, e lavorare per costruire una relazione, \u00e8 qualcosa che posso controllare? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No. Questo \u00e8 al di l\u00e0 del mio ragionevole controllo. Lei sa che sono interessato. Ho fatto cos\u00ec la mia parte.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ho anche chiesto se darle spazio quando si ritira \u00e8 la cosa giusta da fare (non ha risposto). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quindi, l'unica cosa che mi resta da fare \u00e8 arrendermi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Per arrendermi, e iniziare a soddisfare i miei bisogni in un modo diverso da una relazione di fantasia. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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