{"id":109,"date":"2021-10-02T15:13:02","date_gmt":"2021-10-02T15:13:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=109"},"modified":"2021-10-02T15:14:33","modified_gmt":"2021-10-02T15:14:33","slug":"sentire-il-no-nel-forse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/it\/sentire-il-no-nel-forse\/","title":{"rendered":"Sentire il \"no\" nel \"forse\""},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando siamo innamorati di qualcuno, ci concentriamo sul \"s\u00ec\" nel \"forse\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oggi, per me, \u00e8 il momento di sentire anche il \"no\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Io e il mio interesse amoroso abbiamo un ciclo che va come segue:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>si scusa per il lungo ritardo in cui non l'ho sentita (durante il quale le ho dato spazio)<\/li><li>cominciamo a interagire di nuovo - le mando qualche foto a volte, chiacchieriamo di cose diverse, cerco di mantenere la cosa pi\u00f9 leggera<\/li><li>forse le chiedo di aggiornarsi al telefono (lei vive negli Stati Uniti, io in Germania, quindi normalmente non ci vediamo)<\/li><li>potrebbe anche dire: \"Certo, proponi un'ora\".<\/li><li>Suggerisco un tempo<\/li><li>Non la sento - forse legge l'ultimo messaggio, forse no (lo lascia non letto)<\/li><li>Le do spazio<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Oggi, mi sentivo di nuovo gi\u00f9 per questo, e sono andato a visitare la tomba dei miei nonni. Niente di meglio di un cimitero per ricordarti che tutti i problemi sono relativi, e che la vita \u00e8 molto breve... <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lungo la strada, mi \u00e8 venuta un'idea che vorrei condividere qui oggi:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Non pu\u00f2 sentire l'amore nel modo in cui glielo presento, perch\u00e9 non ha mai imparato a farlo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quando si ritira, \u00e8 veramente <strong>perch\u00e9 lei <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\" class=\"underline\">percepisce <\/span>le mie azioni come negative \/ minacciose <\/strong>\/ vede pi\u00f9 lati negativi nel mio comportamento. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Non c'\u00e8 niente che io possa fare (niente che lei mi abbia comunque comunicato) per cambiare questo: <strong>\u00c8 un problema di percezione da parte sua<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Con il suo comportamento mi dimostra che non ha bisogno di \"altro\". No - si ritira, mi ostacola. <strong>Lei mi mostra che questo non va bene per lei.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E questo \u00e8 il \"no\" di cui sto parlando. Non si esprime a parole (anche se aveva rifiutato un mio regalo di compleanno) - si esprime in azioni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anche se lei \u00e8 combattuta su questo, e mi sta mandando messaggi contrastanti (faccine con cuori, ecc.) - questo \u00e8 un forte no da parte sua. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Un no forse basato sul suo passato traumatico, ma un <strong>no <\/strong>che devo ascoltare e che devo rispettare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perch\u00e9 nulla cambier\u00e0, e io e il mio amore non siamo la serratura che \"aprir\u00e0 il suo cuore\". Triste, ma vero. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Se sei in una situazione simile, ti suggerisco di vedere se \u00e8 un modello - o una cosa una tantum. Se si tratta di un modello ciclico di ritiro, allora forse il tuo interesse amoroso ha anche un \"no\" all'interno del loro forse, e hanno bisogno di fare un lavoro sul loro lato prima che diventi un forte s\u00ec. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ora ho intenzione di sollevare la questione con lei, quando ricomincer\u00e0 il nostro ciclo, per essere giusto con me stesso, e per smettere di essere una minaccia per lei.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Le offrir\u00f2 solo l'amicizia, finch\u00e9 non diventer\u00e0 un forte \"s\u00ec\" da parte sua. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ho intenzione di ricominciare a frequentare altre donne, dopo averle fatto questa offerta. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When we are in love with someone, we focus on the &#8220;yes&#8221; in the &#8220;maybe&#8221;. Today, for me, it is time to hear the &#8220;no&#8221;, as well. 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