{"id":113,"date":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","date_gmt":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=113"},"modified":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","modified_gmt":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","slug":"il-tuo-desiderio-non-e-il-mio-desiderio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/it\/il-tuo-desiderio-non-e-il-mio-desiderio\/","title":{"rendered":"Il tuo desiderio non \u00e8 il mio desiderio"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ieri ho avuto un candidato per un lavoro, che \u00e8 apertamente molto entusiasta di unirsi a noi e vuole davvero fare una buona impressione. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si \u00e8 offerto di fare servizi extra e di aiutare anche con altre cose accanto all'azienda. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi trovo a resistere alla sua domanda e al suo interesse per la posizione. Cercando problemi, in realt\u00e0. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi dico che non \u00e8 abbastanza qualificato. E forse lo \u00e8 davvero. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma il punto che voglio fare qui: il suo desiderio eccessivo \/ interesse nella posizione \u00e8 in realt\u00e0 un turn-off. Una sorta di bandiera rossa, se volete ... <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si sbaglia di grosso nel \"devo solo comunicare abbastanza il mio desiderio e poi otterr\u00f2 la posizione\". No, in realt\u00e0 sono io che devo avere il desiderio di assumerlo<\/strong>. Devo vedere i benefici nel farlo per me stesso<\/strong>. Devo convincermi che \u00e8 una \"presa troppo buona per perdere\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Devo capire cosa c'\u00e8 \"per me\". Capisco che vuole la posizione, e che ha senso per lui, e che gli piacerebbe davvero lavorare qui. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Penso che ci sia un beneficio nell'avere un candidato interessato e che voglia la posizione. Ma il beneficio non supera il suo (percepito - da me) capacit\u00e0<\/strong>e la mia proiezione se sar\u00e0 in grado di gestire il tipo di lavoro che sto cercando di dargli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Traducendo questo alle relazioni romantiche<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Corteggiare una donna dicendole \"ti amo\", ed esprimendo quanto lei sia importante per te, ti porter\u00e0 solo a met\u00e0 strada. Non \u00e8 una strategia che, \"girata fino a 11\", vi far\u00e0 \"ottenere\" la donna. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No. Infatti, la donna sta cercando di soddisfare alcuni bisogni - e una volta che percepisce che questi bisogni saranno soddisfatti da te, e che tu sei l'uomo migliore per il lavoro, ti \"assumer\u00e0\" come suo fidanzato. Si innamorer\u00e0 di te.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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