{"id":134,"date":"2021-11-13T08:49:25","date_gmt":"2021-11-13T08:49:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=134"},"modified":"2021-11-13T08:52:06","modified_gmt":"2021-11-13T08:52:06","slug":"stili-di-attaccamento-insicuri-e-controllo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/it\/stili-di-attaccamento-insicuri-e-controllo\/","title":{"rendered":"Stili di attaccamento insicuro e controllo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ho avuto un'altra di queste intuizioni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tutti vogliamo raggiungere certi obiettivi, ed essenzialmente controllare le nostre emozioni. Alcune persone usano metodi diretti per farlo - per esempio stabilendo dei limiti, e dissociandosi dalle persone che non rispettano i limiti. (In questo modo si stabilisce essenzialmente un confine pi\u00f9 duro). E associandosi con persone che sono sicure e forniscono amore costante (perch\u00e9 sono intrinsecamente capaci di farlo). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Altre persone hanno imparato nella loro infanzia che non \u00e8 sicuro porre dei limiti. Che i confini saranno ignorati. O forse, che le altre persone quando si avvicinano troppo sar\u00e0<\/strong> sopraffarli. Perci\u00f2 si ritirano (evitanti sprezzanti) - e controllare <\/strong>la vicinanza e l'ansia che questa vicinanza provoca ritirandosi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Altri hanno imparato che devono essere estremamente aggressivi e manipolativi per assicurarsi le attenzioni degli altri. La mia (unica finora) ex ragazza ha cercato di farmi ingelosire, per esempio. Non ha funzionato nel modo in cui lei intendeva... (attaccamento ansioso). Cercano anche di controllare <\/strong>la vicinanza. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Essenzialmente tutto questo riguarda il controllo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

E non<\/span> controllo dell'altra persona, come si potrebbe ingenuamente supporre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si tratta di controllo dei nostri stati emotivi. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rendersi conto di questo rende effettivamente pi\u00f9 facile lasciare andare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lasciare andare le situazioni che non ci servono pi\u00f9 (come direbbero i thailandesi). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Andiamo, scivolare in qualcosa di pi\u00f9 comodo<\/a>. Lasciate andare ci\u00f2 che non potete comunque controllare: un'altra persona. Scegliete di vedere la situazione cos\u00ec com'\u00e8. Lasciate riposare le vostre paure. Loro hanno detto la loro, ora dobbiamo guardare avanti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Arrendersi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E non dimenticate i confini - il controllo reale <\/strong>hai. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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