{"id":149,"date":"2021-12-05T10:00:14","date_gmt":"2021-12-05T10:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=149"},"modified":"2021-12-05T10:00:15","modified_gmt":"2021-12-05T10:00:15","slug":"non-si-tratta-di-te","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/it\/non-si-tratta-di-te\/","title":{"rendered":"Non si tratta di te"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sono un membro della Scuola di Sviluppo Personale, e anche del suo gruppo ufficiale su Facebook. Diversi membri postano sulle loro vite e relazioni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una storia che qualcuno ha postato oggi (che non racconter\u00f2, per rispettare la sua privacy!) mi ha ricordato la mia situazione.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una situazione in cui mi trovo con il \"mio\" interesse amoroso DA.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fondamentalmente non risponde ad alcune domande \/ lascia perdere le conversazioni. Mi sono scervellato per trovare soluzioni; ma alla fine - molto probabilmente devo accettare che la soluzione \u00e8 quella di riconsiderare la mia scelta di donne<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nell'infanzia, dobbiamo avere a che fare con i nostri genitori cos\u00ec come sono. Non c'\u00e8 alternativa (come \"scegliere altri genitori\"). Alcuni di noi tendono a trasferire questo ai nostri partner romantici, e si aggrappano a situazioni che non funzionano per noi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nel mio caso, non sento progressi e crescita <\/strong>nella connessione con il mio interesse amoroso DA. La crescita \u00e8 molto importante per me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ho cercato di alimentare le fiamme a modo mio, ma sembra che mi sto avvicinando troppo a lei perch\u00e9 si senta a suo agio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quindi ristabilisce l'equilibrio ritirando<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In altre parole, le sto chiedendo di darmi qualcosa che non pu\u00f2. (Almeno in questo momento). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma non si tratta di me e che non mi sto presentando correttamente \/ facendo qualcosa di sbagliato. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Si tratta della mia scelta, di scegliere di rimanere in una situazione in cui la donna non \u00e8 interessata \/ capace di ci\u00f2 che vorrei \"da lei\". (Una relazione romantica reciprocamente soddisfacente). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c8 emotivamente indisponibile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ha paura di aprirsi. A questo punto, dovrei aver dimostrato che sono un tipo sicuro da frequentare, che non le faccio pressioni, che accetto e rispetto quando ha bisogno di tempo per s\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Non basta, perch\u00e9 la sua programmazione particolare - il suo passato, le sue esperienze, le dicono di stare lontano da me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Non si tratta di me, ma del suo passato. E io non posso cambiare questo passato (almeno non direttamente - le persone POSSONO riprogrammare i loro ricordi).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Non si tratta di me, non si tratta di qualcosa che sto facendo. Non \u00e8 \"colpa mia\", non \u00e8 sotto il mio controllo<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L'unica cosa che \u00e8 sotto il mio controllo \u00e8 comunicare i miei bisogni, e scegliere partner che siano ricettivi a questa comunicazione, e interessati a soddisfare i bisogni in modo equilibrato e reciprocamente soddisfacente. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un matrimonio con il mio interesse amoroso DA (qualcosa a cui sto pensando di pi\u00f9 in questi giorni, a causa della mia et\u00e0) sembra improbabile a questo punto. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le auguro davvero ogni bene e continuer\u00f2 a sostenerla al meglio delle mie possibilit\u00e0. Perch\u00e9 nel profondo continuo a preoccuparmi per lei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In un certo senso, lei \u00e8 un riflesso di me, del nascondersi dall'amore. Siamo entrambi uguali.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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