{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"VitalMeaning","provider_url":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/ja","title":"Toxic people - VitalMeaning","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"3v72BZUqLg\"><a href=\"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/ja\/toxic-people\/\">\u6bd2\u820c\u5bb6<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/ja\/toxic-people\/embed\/#?secret=3v72BZUqLg\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&quot;\u6709\u5bb3\u306a\u4eba\u3005&quot; - VitalMeaning\" data-secret=\"3v72BZUqLg\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/\/# sourceURL=https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/wp-includes\/js\/wp-embed.min.js\n<\/script>","description":"I never liked the &#8220;toxic people&#8221; moniker. It kind of seems unfair towards these people. And then, you get the discussion, &#8220;is this person truly toxic or not?&#8221; I think the discussion needs to be shifted, and the definition needs to become our own. Same as different people tolerate different levels of poison, and some people are allergic to perfectly &#8220;normal&#8221; food items which others consume and even enjoy. I think we need to define &#8220;toxic people&#8221; as &#8220;people who are consistently detrimental to us meeting our own, legitimate, needs&#8221; For example &#8211; if you are very sensitive to criticism, and your partner uses lots of sarcasm and personal attacks [&hellip;]"}