{"id":113,"date":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","date_gmt":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=113"},"modified":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","modified_gmt":"2021-10-08T06:55:41","slug":"jouw-verlangen-is-niet-mijn-verlangen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/nl\/jouw-verlangen-is-niet-mijn-verlangen\/","title":{"rendered":"Jouw verlangen is niet mijn verlangen"},"content":{"rendered":"

Gisteren had ik een sollicitant binnen, die openlijk heel enthousiast is om te komen werken, en echt een goede indruk wil maken. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hij heeft aangeboden om extra diensten te doen en ook te helpen met andere dingen naast het bedrijf. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ik verzet me tegen zijn sollicitatie en interesse in de positie. Op zoek naar problemen, eigenlijk. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ik zeg tegen mezelf, dat hij niet gekwalificeerd genoeg is. En misschien, is hij dat inderdaad. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maar het punt dat ik hier wil maken: zijn over-the-top verlangen \/ interesse in de positie is eigenlijk een turn-off. Een soort van rode vlag, als je wilt ... <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hij vergist zich erg in \"Ik hoef alleen maar mijn verlangen genoeg over te brengen, en dan krijg ik de positie\". Nee, het is eigenlijk ik die een verlangen moet krijgen om hem in dienst te nemen<\/strong>. Ik moet er de voordelen van inzien voor ikzelf<\/strong>. Ik moet mezelf ervan overtuigen dat hij een \"te goede vangst is om te verliezen\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ik moet begrijpen wat er \"in zit voor mij\". Ik begrijp dat hij de positie wil, en dat dat zinvol voor hem is, en dat hij hier echt graag zou willen werken. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ik denk dat het een voordeel is dat een kandidaat ge\u00efnteresseerd is en de positie wil. Maar het voordeel weegt niet op tegen zijn (door mij waargenomen) capaciteiten<\/strong>en mijn inschatting of hij het werk aankan dat ik hem wil geven.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Als we dit vertalen naar romantische relaties<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Een vrouw het hof maken door haar te zeggen \"Ik hou van je\", en uit te drukken hoeveel ze voor je betekent, brengt je maar halverwege. Het is geen strategie die, \"opgevoerd tot 11\" je de vrouw zal \"krijgen\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nee. De vrouw wil inderdaad aan bepaalde behoeften voldoen - en zodra zij merkt dat aan die behoeften door jou zal worden voldaan, en dat jij de beste man bent voor de job, zal zij jou \"aannemen\" als haar vriend. Ze zal verliefd op je worden.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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