{"id":383,"date":"2023-05-07T11:10:31","date_gmt":"2023-05-07T11:10:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=383"},"modified":"2023-05-07T11:10:31","modified_gmt":"2023-05-07T11:10:31","slug":"volhouden-ondanks-afwijzing-een-supermacht","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/nl\/volhouden-ondanks-afwijzing-een-supermacht\/","title":{"rendered":"Volhouden ondanks afwijzing: een superkracht"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Met een mes kun je brood snijden. Met een mes kun je andere mensen pijn doen, en jezelf. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Volhouden ondanks afwijzing<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Dit is een gewoonte, iets wat ik in mijn jeugd heb opgepikt. Mijn vader kon onvoorspelbaar zijn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik herinner me nog goed het gevoel van vertrouwen dat ik in de loop der tijd langzaam met hem opbouwde, om vervolgens door een andere onvoorspelbare episode - van harde woorden of zelfs geweld (tegen dingen, maar in sommige gevallen helaas ook tegen mij of tegen mijn broer) te worden verbrijzeld. Ik herinner me dat ik op eieren liep, me onzeker voelde en veel aan mezelf twijfelde. Proberen uit te vinden wat ik goed kon doen, om veilig te blijven. Om veilig te blijven door hem te controleren door mijn acties. <strong>Door harder te proberen<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Vermenging en afhankelijkheid<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Precies, dit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik gebruikte het mes van doorzetten ondanks afwijzing om veilig te blijven. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\"Bij afwijzing, probeer harder\" fluistert het mes me toe. Kun je dat begrijpen? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Daten als volwassene<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Deze gewoonte leidde tot een patroon van vasthouden aan meisjes die me afwezen. <strong>\"wanneer afgewezen, probeer harder.\"<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik gebruikte het mes tegen mezelf, en in zekere zin gebruikte ik het ook tegen deze vrouwen (ergernis). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pas toen ik N was heb ik echt aan dit patroon gewerkt en het opgelost. Ik stopte met het najagen van vrouwen die niet beschikbaar waren, of nee hadden gezegd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zelfs als ik af en toe aan sommige van deze vrouwen denk (bv. een recente datingervaring, met een vrouw die in M\u00fcnchen woont), is het najagen ervan een doodlopende weg. Ik besef dat het om een of andere reden niet gelukt is, en die redenen zullen waarschijnlijk blijven bestaan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">De superkracht<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Een mes is een gereedschap - en een heel nuttig ook. Stel je voor dat je eten moet bereiden zonder een mes!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We hebben messen nodig in ons leven, en we... <strong>ook <\/strong>moeten ze op de juiste manier gebruiken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Op dezelfde manier is dit \"volharden ondanks afwijzing\" een superkracht, indien correct toegepast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De truc is - om het te doen <strong>opeenvolgend<\/strong>om te blijven zoeken naar romantische partners (ondanks afwijzing), maar om te zoeken naar <strong>ANDERE <\/strong>romantische partners. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Om door te zetten ondanks afwijzing. Maar om de persoon waarmee je probeert te daten te veranderen. Om te veranderen tot je overeenkomt met een persoon die je niet afwijst. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dit. In plaats van op te geven, in plaats van te klagen over mijn jeugd en dat het me jaren (eigenlijk iets van twee decennia!) kostte aan uitgaan, kan ik accepteren dat ik de unieke gave heb gekregen dit gereedschap tot mijn beschikking te hebben. 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