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Ik had een vriend, A., in M\u00fcnchen, met wie ik veel dingen deed. We gingen wandelen, praten. Ik bracht \u00e9\u00e9n nieuwjaar met hem door, films kijken. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We zouden ook samen tijd doorbrengen in het appartement van zijn vriendin. Deze vriendin was een beetje ouder dan A.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Op een keer, toen we in de keuken waren en op het punt stonden wat te gaan eten, kwam de vriendin binnen en zei: \"Nee, niet eten, dat is oud.\" <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A. zei: \"Nee, je bent oud.\" <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Van nul tot held. Niet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dit verhaal is me bijgebleven. Later, toen ik naar Leipzig verhuisde, kwam iedereen opdagen, behalve A. - Ik besefte dat ik me er niet goed bij voelde om hem op te bellen en hem te vragen waarom hij niet kwam. Ik voelde me niet op mijn gemak bij hem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

De les: als je een lul bent tegen andere mensen, merken je vrienden dat. En op een gegeven moment heb je geen vrienden meer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wees beleefd, wees respectvol. Doe niet aan passieve agressie. Als je ongelukkig bent met iemand, in godsnaam, verlaat hem dan en ga verder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Foto door Nina Strehl<\/a> op Unsplash<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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