{"id":72,"date":"2021-09-04T07:14:55","date_gmt":"2021-09-04T07:14:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=72"},"modified":"2021-09-04T09:39:56","modified_gmt":"2021-09-04T09:39:56","slug":"overstuur-over-afstand-doen-gouden-schaduw-werk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/nl\/overstuur-over-afstand-doen-gouden-schaduw-werk\/","title":{"rendered":"Onrustig over afstand? Doe gouden schaduw werk"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>De vrouw van wie ik hou is de grootste lerares voor mij. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ze trekt zich van me terug. Ik begin te piekeren over hoe ik haar kan \"winnen\", hoe ik haar kan \"overtuigen om een relatie met mij op te bouwen.\" Ja, we zitten een beetje vast in de \"vrienden of meer?\" fase. Ik krijg gemengde signalen van haar, en ben verward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik was me aan het haasten en obsessief aan het lezen over ontwijkende ontwijkers, hechtingsstijlen, tegenafhankelijken, obsessieve persoonlijkheden, enz. - om te proberen haar te begrijpen, om de \"<strong>magische sleutel<\/strong>\"waardoor ze eindelijk mijn liefde zou zien, etc. Proberen de situatie te beheersen door de oplossing te vinden, om ons beiden gelukkig te maken. Klinkt dit bekend?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zie je, ze is zich bewust van mijn toewijding voor haar en mijn zorg voor haar. Ze heeft geen verdere bewijzen nodig. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ze heeft minder druk nodig. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Voor gisteren, dacht ik dat het <strong>ze <\/strong>die me een echte kans moet geven. En ik moet haar \"overtuigen\", op een of andere manier. Ik moet haar \"het licht doen zien\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Gisteren kwam ik op het idee <span style=\"background-color: #ffff00;\"><strong>dat ik degene ben die ons een echte kans moet geven<\/strong><\/span>. Dat was een goede gedachte om te hebben, en een paradigma verschuiving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Minder druk op mijn geliefde<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ze heeft minder druk nodig. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik ben geduldig geweest en heb haar goed behandeld, geaccepteerd als ze zich terugtrok, enz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dit verhoogde op zijn beurt de interne druk in mij, de druk om de dingen op de een of andere manier vooruit te helpen, zelfs met \"minder druk op haar\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik maak me constant zorgen dat ik (nog steeds) \"te veel\" ben, dat ik haar irriteer, dat ik niet de juiste dingen zeg, ...  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zie je hoe de druk op haar nog steeds aanwezig is?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vandaag, had ik een extra inzicht. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"background-color: #ffff00;\"><strong>Ik moet de druk op mezelf wegnemen, om de druk op haar weg te nemen.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Minder druk op mezelf<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>De eerlijke reden waarom wij verliefd worden op mensen is dat zij goed bij ons onderbewustzijn passen, en (impliciet) beloven vele behoeften die wij hebben te vervullen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>B.v. met mijn geliefde, zijn het dingen als haar gevoel voor avontuur, reizen, leven en genieten van haar leven. Dit is de belofte aan mij, \"als ik haar maar kan overtuigen om mijn vriendin te worden, zal ik al deze dingen hebben\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>En dit is de bron van de druk! Ik verlang wanhopig naar deze dingen, en zij lijkt \"de beste oplossing\" voor hen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ja, ik hou echt van haar als een mens. Ja, ik hou van haar voor zichzelf, ik heb veel medelijden met haar, ze is lief en erg sexy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maar <strong>de druk<\/strong>de druk op mezelf om haar te \"krijgen\", en de emotionele achtbaan <strong>te wijten is aan het feit dat ik niet aan mijn eigen behoeften kan voldoen<\/strong> - en wachtten op haar om hen te ontmoeten. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik ben wanhopig, en dat maakt het voor mij veel moeilijker om op de beste manier voor haar op te komen dagen, op de manier die zij verdient dat ik op kom dagen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Gouden Schaduw werk<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Een ander prachtig ding dat ik geleerd heb van <a href=\"https:\/\/university.personaldevelopmentschool.com\/\">Thais Gibson's <em>Schaduwwerk: hoe je gevoelens van onwaardigheid kunt overwinnen<\/em><\/a> cursus is de <strong>gouden schaduw <\/strong>werk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Het is gebaseerd op werk van Carl Gustav Jung. Kort gezegd projecteren we eigenschappen die we eigenlijk zelf hebben, maar onderdrukken, op andere mensen, en ervaren we intense positieve gevoelens voor hen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ik heb daadwerkelijk de cursus Schaduwwerk doorlopen, en ik heb de eigenschappen ge\u00efdentificeerd die ik zeer aantrekkelijk vind in de vrouw van wie ik houd. (Als je ge\u00efnteresseerd bent in de manier waarop dit gedaan wordt, raad ik je aan <a href=\"https:\/\/university.personaldevelopmentschool.com\/\">bij Thais persoonlijkheidsontwikkeling school<\/a> - ze heeft een gratis proef). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maar ik heb er niet veel aan gedaan om deze eigenschappen actief in mijn leven in te voeren; in plaats daarvan ben ik in hetzelfde konijnenhol gedoken van \"proberen om met haar een oplossing te vinden\". <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dit is een herinnering aan mezelf - ik moet me op mezelf en mijn behoeften concentreren. En ik moet manieren vinden - waar mijn geliefde niet bij betrokken is! - om aan deze behoeften te voldoen. Zodra ze vervuld zijn, zal ik veel meer ontspannen zijn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Dan zal ik ons een echte kans geven.<\/strong> Het ligt in mijn handen, de oplossing ligt bij mij en mijn leven en niet bij haar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Het banket<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Stel je voor, je bent uitgehongerd, en je bent uitgenodigd voor een banket - je brengt misschien niet je beste tafelmanieren mee, want alles wat je wilt, en alles wat je in je hoofd hebt is <strong>om je buik zo snel mogelijk te vullen.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Als er daarentegen eten in overvloed is, dat altijd beschikbaar is, dan zult u meer aandacht hebben voor de tafelmanieren, in staat zijn te genieten van de muziek op het banket, de dansers, de versiering, en leuke gesprekken kunnen voeren met de andere gasten. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dit is wat ik nu ga doen, met de rest van dit jaar - ik ga terug naar de notities van het gouden schaduwwerk dat ik heb gedaan, <span style=\"background-color: #ffff00;\"><strong>en ik richt me op het voldoen aan mijn behoeften en maak er tijd voor.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Voorlopig geen lectuur meer over hechtingsstijlen, proberen om \"de oplossing voor haar probleem\" te vinden - ze zal doen wat het beste voor haar is. 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