{"id":134,"date":"2021-11-13T08:49:25","date_gmt":"2021-11-13T08:49:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=134"},"modified":"2021-11-13T08:52:06","modified_gmt":"2021-11-13T08:52:06","slug":"otrygg-anknytningsstil-och-kontroll","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/sv\/otrygg-anknytningsstil-och-kontroll\/","title":{"rendered":"Otrygga anknytningsstilar och kontroll"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Jag har f\u00e5tt ytterligare en s\u00e5dan insikt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vi vill alla uppn\u00e5 vissa m\u00e5l och i huvudsak kontrollera v\u00e5ra k\u00e4nslor. Vissa m\u00e4nniskor anv\u00e4nder direkta metoder f\u00f6r att g\u00f6ra detta - till exempel genom att s\u00e4tta gr\u00e4nser och distansera sig fr\u00e5n personer som inte respekterar gr\u00e4nserna. (D\u00e4rmed s\u00e4tter man i huvudsak en h\u00e5rdare gr\u00e4ns). Och genom att umg\u00e5s med m\u00e4nniskor som \u00e4r trygga &amp; ger konsekvent k\u00e4rlek (eftersom de av naturen \u00e4r kapabla till det). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Andra m\u00e4nniskor har i sin barndom l\u00e4rt sig att det inte \u00e4r s\u00e4kert att s\u00e4tta gr\u00e4nser. Att gr\u00e4nser kommer att ignoreras. Eller m\u00f6jligen att andra m\u00e4nniskor n\u00e4r de kommer f\u00f6r n\u00e4ra <strong>will<\/strong> \u00f6verv\u00e4ldiga dem. S\u00e5 de drar sig tillbaka (avvisande undvikare) - och <strong>kontroll <\/strong>N\u00e4rheten och den \u00e5ngest som denna n\u00e4rhet orsakar genom att dra sig tillbaka. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Andra har l\u00e4rt sig att de m\u00e5ste vara extremt aggressiva och manipulativa f\u00f6r att f\u00e5 andras uppm\u00e4rksamhet. Min (hittills enda) f\u00f6re detta flickv\u00e4n har till exempel f\u00f6rs\u00f6kt g\u00f6ra mig svartsjuk. Det fungerade inte p\u00e5 det s\u00e4tt som hon hade t\u00e4nkt sig ... (\u00e4ngsligt fasth\u00e5llande). De f\u00f6rs\u00f6ker ocks\u00e5 att <strong>kontroll <\/strong>n\u00e4rheten. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>I grunden handlar allt detta om kontroll.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Och <span style=\"text-decoration: underline\" class=\"underline\">inte<\/span> kontroll \u00f6ver den andra personen, vilket du kanske naivt antar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Detta handlar om kontroll <strong>av v\u00e5ra egna k\u00e4nslom\u00e4ssiga tillst\u00e5nd. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>N\u00e4r man inser detta \u00e4r det faktiskt l\u00e4ttare att sl\u00e4ppa taget. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sl\u00e4ppa taget om situationer som inte l\u00e4ngre tj\u00e4nar oss (som thail\u00e4ndarna skulle uttrycka det). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kom igen, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=oonHquCgFl4\">ta p\u00e5 sig n\u00e5got bekv\u00e4mare<\/a>. Sl\u00e4pp det som du \u00e4nd\u00e5 inte kan kontrollera - en annan person. V\u00e4lj att se situationen som den \u00e4r. L\u00e5t din r\u00e4dsla vila. 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