{"id":33,"date":"2021-08-24T09:39:03","date_gmt":"2021-08-24T09:39:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/?p=33"},"modified":"2021-08-25T08:06:13","modified_gmt":"2021-08-25T08:06:13","slug":"granser-i-relationer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vitalmeaning.com\/sv\/granser-i-relationer\/","title":{"rendered":"Gr\u00e4nser i relationer"},"content":{"rendered":"

Det finns en anledning till att relationer existerar. De \u00e4r en form av \u00f6msesidigt st\u00f6d, f\u00f6r att b\u00e4ttre kunna klara livets stormar tillsammans. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Som s\u00e5dana m\u00e5ste de uppfylla behoven hos personerna i relationen - De m\u00e5ste b\u00e4ttre tillgodose behoven.<\/strong>, \u00e4n att var och en av dem i f\u00f6rh\u00e5llandet skulle kunna uppfylla dem p\u00e5 egen hand!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vi b\u00f6r ha detta i \u00e5tanke n\u00e4r relationer misslyckas eller g\u00e5r s\u00f6nder: det betyder att behoven inte har blivit tillgodosedda! (Samma sak h\u00e4nder naturligtvis n\u00e4r m\u00e4nniskor \u00e4r otrogna - de f\u00f6rs\u00f6ker uppfylla sina behov, t.ex. att f\u00e5 uppm\u00e4rksamhet, att vara speciell osv. som inte uppfylls i det prim\u00e4ra f\u00f6rh\u00e5llandet).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Den st\u00f6rsta tragedin \u00e4r n\u00e4r dessa uppbrott hade kunnat undvikas genom b\u00e4ttre kommunikation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Genom att s\u00e4tta gr\u00e4nser.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Att s\u00e4tta gr\u00e4nser: Detta \u00e4r kommunikation om vad du beh\u00f6ver och vad du inte beh\u00f6ver. Vad som skadar dig och vad som gynnar dig. Vad du f\u00f6rv\u00e4ntar dig. Vad du beh\u00f6ver f\u00f6r att k\u00e4nna dig lycklig i ett f\u00f6rh\u00e5llande. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Det \u00e4r s\u00e5 viktigt att kommunicera detta! Det verkar vara s\u00e5 sv\u00e5rt ibland. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vi kan ha l\u00e4rt oss av tidigare situationer att det inte var \u00f6nskv\u00e4rt att s\u00e4tta gr\u00e4nser - eftersom de personer som vi f\u00f6rs\u00f6kte s\u00e4tta dessa gr\u00e4nser f\u00f6r k\u00e4nde att deras behov var hotade och agerade d\u00e4refter (genom att sl\u00e5 ner p\u00e5 oss som s\u00e4tter gr\u00e4nser, i st\u00e4llet f\u00f6r att inse att de f\u00f6rs\u00f6ker skapa en situation d\u00e4r ingen vinner). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Att ge upp gr\u00e4nser \u00e4r en mycket ineffektivt <\/strong>sak att g\u00f6ra. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Att ge f\u00f6r mycket leder till f\u00f6rbittring och \u00f6kade f\u00f6rv\u00e4ntningar fr\u00e5n den andra personen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Faktum \u00e4r att jag just nu jobbar med min bindningsfobi (s\u00e4rskilt n\u00e4r det g\u00e4ller kvinnor), och jag ser att min r\u00e4dsla f\u00f6r att s\u00e4tta gr\u00e4nser f\u00f6r kvinnor (och d\u00e4rmed skada dem - att uts\u00e4tta mig sj\u00e4lv f\u00f6r fara p\u00e5 detta s\u00e4tt) h\u00e5ller mig utanf\u00f6r relationer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(\"Skit i det, s\u00e5 l\u00e4nge jag inte kan s\u00e4tta gr\u00e4nser t\u00e4nker jag inte inleda ett f\u00f6rh\u00e5llande.\")<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men detta \u00e4r ett problem som jag skapar sj\u00e4lv genom att inte s\u00e4tta dessa gr\u00e4nser fr\u00e5n b\u00f6rjan. Genom att inte acceptera att de m\u00e5ste s\u00e4ttas f\u00f6r att vi faktiskt ska kunna ha ett sunt f\u00f6rh\u00e5llande.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jag har r\u00e4tt om att jag inte vill ha oh\u00e4lsosamma, gr\u00e4nsl\u00f6sa relationer. Men jag ger inte ens dessa kvinnor en chans att respektera mina gr\u00e4nser. Jag springer bara ifr\u00e5n dem och antar bara att varje kvinna kommer att respektera mina gr\u00e4nser inte (och att jag inte kan g\u00f6ra n\u00e5got \u00e5t det). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vad tycker du om detta, v\u00e4nliga l\u00e4sare? Tror du att alla kvinnor inte respekterar \u00e4rliga gr\u00e4nser? Tror du att de som g\u00f6r det, upprepade g\u00e5nger, kan visa upp sig f\u00f6r f\u00f6rh\u00e5llandet p\u00e5 det s\u00e4tt som det kr\u00e4ver av dem?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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