I had only one girlfriend so far, and we broke up because of a teddy bear. That is exaggerating of course, there were other issues, but the teddy was a symbol. The story goes like this: we met, dated, had sex. I started to withdraw, and she started to become increasingly stressed because of this. …
Historically, I have an FA attachment style – fearful avoidant. The FA has two sides to them: an anxious side, which goes into activation when the partner pulls away (for example if the partner is a dismissive avoidant who takes space), and a dismissive side, which deactivates. How does deactivation look like? For me, deactivation …
I had a dream this night. In the dream, I was visiting a restaurant with a friend. There were mineral water bottles hanging from a rack, some of them had mould on it. I then received cutlery which was not clean, as sometimes the automatic dishwasher fails to clean it. I requested for new cutlery …
A fantastic sketch video, which nails it:
We value what is difficult to obtain We measure the “worth” of something in proportion to how difficult it is to get. For example, do you obsess about being able to get the current news, or get facts? Do you find it – really deeply, emotionally – very valuable to be able to do this? …
When you go shopping with your friends, do you pay for their groceries? Maybe once in a while, but not all the time, right? Sometimes we end up “paying for the groceries” for important people in our lives. And someone who doesn’t pay for the groceries themselves will not see their value as directly and …
Yesterday I saw a woman taking a selfie in front of a building. After a little consideration I approached her and asked her whether she wanted to take a picture taken of her. A brief conversation ensued – the woman was happy to interact with me. She was a Japanese stewardess. This is an example …
I am currently chatting with a woman (in a dating context), who must remain unnamed. As I am currently travelling in Australia, and she is in Germany, I have not been able to meet with her yet. We have been writing on and off, and it transpired that she is interested in me. I also …
IAT is integrated attachment theory by Thais Gibson / PDS. It consists of 6 components:
The seven areas of life is a shortcut to reflect about the different areas of which your life consists. It is useful to use this list and think about the different areas when using autosuggestion to work on updating core beliefs. Or when you are doing emotional processing, and looking for proofs – you can …
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