January 2023

One question rule

Yesterday I saw a woman taking a selfie in front of a building. After a little consideration I approached her and asked her whether she wanted to take a picture taken of her. A brief conversation ensued – the woman was happy to interact with me. She was a Japanese stewardess. This is an example …

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7 areas of life

The seven areas of life is a shortcut to reflect about the different areas of which your life consists. It is useful to use this list and think about the different areas when using autosuggestion to work on updating core beliefs. Or when you are doing emotional processing, and looking for proofs – you can …

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Updating Coping mechanisms

Coping mechanisms and strategies are the things you do in response to a heightened (negative) emotional state. For example, a dismissive avoidant attachment style frequently will have negative associations with vulnerability. When they have been uncharacteristically vulnerable with someone, they will often have a “vulnerability hangover”. They will distance themselves, not return calls, and not …

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