When you go shopping with your friends, do you pay for their groceries? Maybe once in a while, but not all the time, right? Sometimes we end up “paying for the groceries” for important people in our lives. And someone who doesn’t pay for the groceries themselves will not see their value as directly and …
I am currently chatting with a woman (in a dating context), who must remain unnamed. As I am currently travelling in Australia, and she is in Germany, I have not been able to meet with her yet. We have been writing on and off, and it transpired that she is interested in me. I also …
Yesterday my father had an accident. We went to the hospital to see him. While we were waiting, a person (another emergency patient) approached us. He said that we should give up hope to be seen in time. He said he would probably loose a leg, due to some wound which had to be operated …
The power of the subconscious mind: two quick examples from the hospital Read More »
There is no such thing as “absolute worth” – but always relative worth. Yes, to people who reject us we are not “worth” a lot. Because they have different needs, and their needs drive their perception of worth. To someone who is hungry and in the desert, gold is not worth anything. To someone who …
Some people, including myself, get upset if their key (the way they are) does not fit in a particular lock: their romantic advances are spurned by the person of their desire. Locks and keys are “made for each other”, and there are only certain locks which will fit with certain keys. No matter how attractive …
I believe that anxiety fundamentally underlies many human interactions. And different people have learned their own individual coping mechanisms. Which manifest as avoidance or hyperactivation. All these coping mechanisms serve to minimize anxiety, which is perceived as threatening. Possibly anxiety is the body’s mapping to threats which it perceives as potentially lethal. It is it’s …
I am currently considering to purchase a MacBook as next computer, returning to the Apple world after a long hiatus (we used to have a Mac Performa in my childhood / adolescence). https://www.apple.com/de/newsroom/2021/10/apple-unveils-game-changing-macbook-pro/ Then I saw two more small mistakes in the text. If you speak German, can you spot the one in this snippet? …
Even Apple has spelling mistakes on their website Read More »
Picking up the topic of “Can I actually control this?” up again. Everything we do is connected to some need we have. Or actually, it’s better to think of this as a chain of needs / linked concepts interlocking which serve to fill a core need. “If I get this woman, I will be able …
I’ve started today, on a whim, to compile a list of “top things I would like to see in a girlfriend”. At the very top of my list is “emotional safety”. I then tried to formulate what I mean by “emotional safety”. And this definition is what I came up with: When she is in …
My father and I met a woman customer at the local post office, back when we were still living in Munich. She had a dog with her, and was berating the dog. I remember it ducking away in pain and looking up with it’s sad dog eyes. It was a German shepherd. Maybe it had …
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