I had a friend, A., in Munich, with whom I used to do lots of things. We would go on walks, talk. I spent one new year’s with him, watching movies. We would also spend time together at his girlfriend’s apartment. This girlfriend was a bit older than A. One time, when we were in …
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A knife can be used to cut bread. A knife can be used to hurt other people, and to hurt yourself. Persisting in spite of rejection This is a habit, a thing I picked up in childhood. My father could be unpredictable. I remember well the feeling of trust building up slowly over time with …
I had set myself a deadline with N – finding out where we were at. Since the communication with her was, as always, quite ambigious (e.g. no new year’s wishes from her side), I decided to send her a video asking her whether she wants to continue to be just friends or wants more. She …
Creative Dating after N – moving on with Tinder, Bumble, a Meetup, and Volunteering Read More »
We often bring up painful situations from the past, and ruminate about them. This is the brain’s way to try and avoid future pain. In reality, it is the brain itself which causes the past to be still painful. And we try to “control the past” (which is impossible), in order to remove / reduce …
Part of my work with the self-defeating behavior (SDB) about chasing emotionally unavailable women and rejecting the women who are interested in me. It’s important to distill the learnings from the work into sentences which are easy to stick into your mind, therefore my wrong (life-taking) and right (life-giving) conclusions are listed below. They key …
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