emotionally unavailable women

What do you do when you’re in love with an emotionally unavailable woman?
Realize that you might be emotionally unavailable as well.
That you’re building sandcastles in the sky.
Missing out on reality, and the beauty it has to offer.

Five steps to avoid dysfunctional relationships

I have compiled a checklist for myself today, to check new people – business, friends, romantic partners – which come into my life. This will protect me against dysfunctional relationships going forward. Note: all five steps are individual filters – if any one of them “fails” (e.g. if I don’t feel safe with the person, …

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If you can’t get what you want, take a step back

Let’s say you’ve fallen in love with a particular person (or customer, or idea, or home, …). And they are not available, for whatever reason. You might despair, you might start feeling unhappy and frustrated. Focusing and doubling down on achieving “your goal”. There is an alternative to all this (frankly unnecessary) suffering: taking a …

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Is it reasonable to try and control this?

I am currently working on the “Perfectionism” course by Thais Gibson. She recommends to inquire, whether the particular thing we are trying to control is actually within our reasonable control. And if not, to stop trying to control it – and surrender to the outcome. As driven, perfectionistic people, we might feel that “nothing is …

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Prices for chasing emotionally unavailable women

For behaving in ways which are not well-adjusted to this world and self-damaging, we pay prices. It is important to visualize such prices. Chasing emotionally unavailable women (and exclusively focusing on them, while pushing available women away) is a self-defeating behavior. I have analyzed the prices I keep paying to keep my behavior up today. …

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