Yesterday my father had an accident. We went to the hospital to see him. While we were waiting, a person (another emergency patient) approached us. He said that we should give up hope to be seen in time. He said he would probably loose a leg, due to some wound which had to be operated …
The power of the subconscious mind: two quick examples from the hospital Read More »
I’ve started to read a book about the 10x rule. The author has a good point in saying that we often underestimate the effort which is needed to achieve a certain result. We then give up, frustrated, believing the result is not achievable. Dating certainly feels that way. There are lots of “duds”. Dates which …
There is no such thing as “absolute worth” – but always relative worth. Yes, to people who reject us we are not “worth” a lot. Because they have different needs, and their needs drive their perception of worth. To someone who is hungry and in the desert, gold is not worth anything. To someone who …
My main criterion these days (unfortunately for attractive Asian women) is: if the woman which is shown looks young, attractive and Asian, and the profile is nearly empty / there is a jumble of interests which don’t really fit together, it’s most likely a fake profile. Today I came across these two profiles directly after …
I had set myself a deadline with N – finding out where we were at. Since the communication with her was, as always, quite ambigious (e.g. no new year’s wishes from her side), I decided to send her a video asking her whether she wants to continue to be just friends or wants more. She …
Creative Dating after N – moving on with Tinder, Bumble, a Meetup, and Volunteering Read More »
While doing personal development work I’ve come up with a wonderful analogy. A cook turns ingredients into delicious dishes. The taste of the dishes depends on the skill of the cook, but also on the ingredients. This metaphor can be applied to relationships as well: You offer up ingredients to a relationship – for example …
I have compiled a checklist for myself today, to check new people – business, friends, romantic partners – which come into my life. This will protect me against dysfunctional relationships going forward. Note: all five steps are individual filters – if any one of them “fails” (e.g. if I don’t feel safe with the person, …
I have a camcorder which records videos to .MTS files. These are huge files – 400 MB for 3 min of video. WhatsApp will not support such big files. Cutting the video losslessly An application cold LosslessCut can be used to cut the video: Using LosslessCut you can trim away any unnecessary portions at the …
“If I could just get them to open up a little more”. “They are always so distant” or “They are always all over me, can’t they leave me alone?” It seems that, if only this other person would change, the world would turn into rainbows and sunshine for you. You would magically achieve all your …
To achieve my goal I need the other person to change Read More »
Let’s say you’ve fallen in love with a particular person (or customer, or idea, or home, …). And they are not available, for whatever reason. You might despair, you might start feeling unhappy and frustrated. Focusing and doubling down on achieving “your goal”. There is an alternative to all this (frankly unnecessary) suffering: taking a …
If you can’t get what you want, take a step back Read More »
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