If you can’t get what you want, take a step back

Let’s say you’ve fallen in love with a particular person (or customer, or idea, or home, …). And they are not available, for whatever reason. You might despair, you might start feeling unhappy and frustrated. Focusing and doubling down on achieving “your goal”. There is an alternative to all this (frankly unnecessary) suffering: taking a …

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Mitarbeitersuche in 2022 richtig gemacht

Mitarbeiter zu finden ist schwer? Diese Erfahrung habe ich bislang auch gemacht. Ich habe sehr viel Geld (mehrere Tausend €) auf Indeed ausgegeben, ohne sinnvolle Resultate. Auch eBay Kleinanzeigen hat nur mäßige Resultate gebracht. Wir hatten beispielsweise einen Kandidaten da, den ich einstellen wollte – der ist aber am ersten Arbeitstag einfach nicht aufgetaucht, und …

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Anxiety is stronger than you think

I believe that anxiety fundamentally underlies many human interactions. And different people have learned their own individual coping mechanisms. Which manifest as avoidance or hyperactivation. All these coping mechanisms serve to minimize anxiety, which is perceived as threatening. Possibly anxiety is the body’s mapping to threats which it perceives as potentially lethal. It is it’s …

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Dishwasher-safe relationships and friendships

There’s a trick to making all your dishes, cutlery etc. dishwasher-safe: you just treat everything as if it were dishwasher-safe, and discard the items which are not. Eventually, everything you own will be dishwasher-safe. How about applying this to friendships and relationships? You know you need certain things from people. For example to respect your …

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