For behaving in ways which are not well-adjusted to this world and self-damaging, we pay prices. It is important to visualize such prices. Chasing emotionally unavailable women (and exclusively focusing on them, while pushing available women away) is a self-defeating behavior. I have analyzed the prices I keep paying to keep my behavior up today. …
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I just had this thought: Maybe I keep giving to women who can’t receive, because there are built-in boundaries. If I was to give to a person who is able to receive, then possibly I might exhaust myself with giving much more than I can – there would not be any boundary. So I’ve chosen …
I’ve stumbled across a great blog about horses yesterday: Pferdeflüsterei (in German). It came at a great point in my life, reminding me about some fundamental truths of humanity & compassion. I think a lot of the things about a relationship with a horse (for example being fair, not putting it under pressure, understanding it’s …
Relationships exist for a reason. They are a form of mutual support, of being able to weather the storms of life better together. As such they need to meet the needs of the individuals in the relationship – they need to meet the needs better, than each individual in the relationship would be able to …
For programmers, there is a paradigm which says “if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, then treat it as a duck”. Similarly, a lover must treat you in a certain way to be recognizable as a lover. This includes wanting to spend time with you, and engaging with you. If they don’t …
All we do in our lifes is to interpret sense data. We hear sounds, and make words out of it. We hear words, and make meaning out of it. We understand meaning and make stories out of it. All this requires us to pull up a lot of data from our own memory to fill …
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This is the very best video I have found about dealing with self-defeating behaviors quickly and efficiently. I am right now dealing with procrastination (more specifically decision phobia). (My wrong conclusion: “Not deciding keeps me safe because I can’t make a mistake and stay in control until I decide”) I’ll post more material on this …
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