This is the very best video I have found about dealing with self-defeating behaviors quickly and efficiently. I am right now dealing with procrastination (more specifically decision phobia).
(My wrong conclusion: “Not deciding keeps me safe because I can’t make a mistake and stay in control until I decide”)
I’ll post more material on this site in a little while, but for now, please take a look at this video. It will be well worth 1 1/2 hours of your time, I promise.
Doug Peters is explaining a model by Dr. Robert E. Hardy.