A duck must be recognizable as a duck

For programmers, there is a paradigm which says “if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck, then treat it as a duck”.

Similarly, a lover must treat you in a certain way to be recognizable as a lover.

This includes wanting to spend time with you, and engaging with you.

If they don’t behave as a lover, then they are not a lover.

Even if this is due to their past & fears.

Go find a real duck.