Communication tips at work for people with communication challenges

A lot of friction can be caused when people do not communicate enough / in the right way at work.

People with different attachment styles communicate in a different way – for example, people with the dismissive avoidant attachment style tend to withdraw during communication, when overwhelmed. They also tend to not show their emotions too much.

This list is a compilation of top articles and videos I’ve found on the topic of how to communicate better, with a focus on the dismissive avoidant attachment style.

Attachment styles & communication at work

Sepideh Saremi gives a great introduction into the strengths, weaknesses and what to expect of different attachment styles at work.

• recommended video: How to Improve Communication Skills at Work [FOR WORKPLACE SUCCESS] (by Adriana Girdler) – #1, underestimate people’s understanding (= overcommunicate) is one of the top tips to keep in mind!
• important: The 4 ‘Attachment Styles,’ and How They Sabotage Your Work-Life Balance (The New York Times) – makes a good point about how individuals with dismissive avoidant attachment style “decide what they should do, and ignore what others want.”, and shows the consequences of that. Gives good tips!
• Attachment Styles in the Workplace: Habits, Time Management and Productivity (by the Personal Development school, a 119 USD course)

Understanding yourself

• Why Dismissive Avoidants Are So Afraid To Ask For Help & How To Change This In A Relationship (by Thais Gibson) – fear of relying on somebody else
• Top 5 Strengths & Weaknesses Of The Dismissive Avoidant At Work | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment (by Thais Gibson)
• Top 5 Triggers For The Dismissive Avoidant At Work | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment & Work (by Thais Gibson)
• 5 Hard Truths For The Dismissive Avoidant | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment, Healing & Core Wounds (by Thais Gibson)
• Top 5 Toxic Things Parents Say (That Might Lead To A Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style) (by Thais Gibson)
• Dismissive Avoidant Attachment: Signs, Triggers, & More (by talkspace)

Communication in relationships

• important: 5 Tips to Make Your Relationship Last Longer | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment (by Thais Gibson)
• recommended book: Communicate Your Feelings (without starting a fight): What to Say and What Not to Say to Your Partner (by Nic Saluppo) – I have not read this book personally, but it was recommended to me by someone I trust
• Avoidant Attachment Style | Do You Withdraw In Relationships Instead of Communicate? Here’s Why! (by Thais Gibson)
• What To Do When You Feel Criticized & Ashamed | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style & Confidence (by Thais Gibson)
• These Assumptions Are Ruining Your Relationships | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment (by Thais Gibson)
• How to Overcome Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style (Wikihow)

Bonus content

• Attachment based strategies for handling workplace stress (by Thais Gibson)
• Healing the Dismissive Avoidant Style | The Journey to Secure Attachment (by Thais Gibson)
• How To Ask Your Partner For Space | Attachment Styles & Relationships (by Thais Gibson)
• How The Dismissive Avoidant Handles Conflict When Becoming Secure | Dismissive Avoidant To Secure (by Thais Gibson)
• From Dismissive Avoidant To Secure In 4 Stages | Attachment Styles (by Thais Gibson)
• CBT Tips for Coping With Dismissive Avoidant Attachment by the Bay Area CBT Center
• The four horsemen: Stonewalling (by the Gottman Institute)

Content to understand the dismissive avoidant attachment style for partners

• Why Dismissive Avoidants Struggle To Acknowledge Your Pain & What To Do Instead | Unmet Needs (by Thais Gibson)
• Why The Dismissive Avoidant ‘Ghosts’ Others | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment (by Thais Gibson)
• 25 Evidence-based Ways of Communicating With an Avoidant Partner (marriage.com)
• The four horsemen: Stonewalling (by the Gottman Institute)

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