I had matched with G on Tinder. She was very sexy and attractive, and also quite interested in me. For example, she was pushing towards having our video dates earlier, rather than later. I quickly identified as her probably leaning towards anxious attachment. This was not the reason I told her I don’t want to […]
G, or why I don’t continue to date this gorgeous woman Read More »
Last Saturday, I was on a fantastic date. The backstory I matched this woman, let’s call her Samantha, on Bumble. I had not been too enthusiastic about Samantha initially – we had had two video dates, and had texted nearly every day before our in-real-life date. In the two video dates, both times she brought
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Last Saturday I was at my 20 year class reunion (the graduation meeting, Abiturtreffen). I wanted to connect with the people I went to school with, see how their lives developed (and yes compare how my life has developed). There was only one problem: a “Munich Singles Club Meetup” was happening on the same evening.
Why it’s safe to make choices Read More »
It is possible to analyze how people choose a mate based on statistics. Probably it does not surprise you, that people usually want a healthy, positive person as their significant other, who will pull their own weight. But what about the specifics?, I hear you cry. What about the hair color, what about their hobbies?
How people choose a mate: the black box Read More »
I am currently chatting with a woman (in a dating context), who must remain unnamed. As I am currently travelling in Australia, and she is in Germany, I have not been able to meet with her yet. We have been writing on and off, and it transpired that she is interested in me. I also
Self defeating behavior illustrated Read More »
I’ve started to read a book about the 10x rule. The author has a good point in saying that we often underestimate the effort which is needed to achieve a certain result. We then give up, frustrated, believing the result is not achievable. Dating certainly feels that way. There are lots of “duds”. Dates which
Massive action (10x) Read More »
There is no such thing as “absolute worth” – but always relative worth. Yes, to people who reject us we are not “worth” a lot. Because they have different needs, and their needs drive their perception of worth. To someone who is hungry and in the desert, gold is not worth anything. To someone who
Barking up the wrong tree? About worth Read More »
My main criterion these days (unfortunately for attractive Asian women) is: if the woman which is shown looks young, attractive and Asian, and the profile is nearly empty / there is a jumble of interests which don’t really fit together, it’s most likely a fake profile. Today I came across these two profiles directly after
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