I had matched with G on Tinder. She was very sexy and attractive, and also quite interested in me. For example, she was pushing towards having our video dates earlier, rather than later. I quickly identified as her probably leaning towards anxious attachment. This was not the reason I told her I don’t want to …
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Last Saturday, I was on a fantastic date. The backstory I matched this woman, let’s call her Samantha, on Bumble. I had not been too enthusiastic about Samantha initially – we had had two video dates, and had texted nearly every day before our in-real-life date. In the two video dates, both times she brought …
Last Saturday I was at my 20 year class reunion (the graduation meeting, Abiturtreffen). I wanted to connect with the people I went to school with, see how their lives developed (and yes compare how my life has developed). There was only one problem: a “Munich Singles Club Meetup” was happening on the same evening. …
It is possible to analyze how people choose a mate based on statistics. Probably it does not surprise you, that people usually want a healthy, positive person as their significant other, who will pull their own weight. But what about the specifics?, I hear you cry. What about the hair color, what about their hobbies? …
I am currently chatting with a woman (in a dating context), who must remain unnamed. As I am currently travelling in Australia, and she is in Germany, I have not been able to meet with her yet. We have been writing on and off, and it transpired that she is interested in me. I also …
I’ve started to read a book about the 10x rule. The author has a good point in saying that we often underestimate the effort which is needed to achieve a certain result. We then give up, frustrated, believing the result is not achievable. Dating certainly feels that way. There are lots of “duds”. Dates which …
There is no such thing as “absolute worth” – but always relative worth. Yes, to people who reject us we are not “worth” a lot. Because they have different needs, and their needs drive their perception of worth. To someone who is hungry and in the desert, gold is not worth anything. To someone who …
My main criterion these days (unfortunately for attractive Asian women) is: if the woman which is shown looks young, attractive and Asian, and the profile is nearly empty / there is a jumble of interests which don’t really fit together, it’s most likely a fake profile. Today I came across these two profiles directly after …
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