Reprogramming the conclusion about emotionally unavailable women

Part of my work with the self-defeating behavior (SDB) about chasing emotionally unavailable women and rejecting the women who are interested in me. It’s important to distill the learnings from the work into sentences which are easy to stick into your mind, therefore my wrong (life-taking) and right (life-giving) conclusions are listed below. They key …

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The omnipotent brain learning dysfunctional perception strategies

I am currently doing the “Perfectionism Trauma” course with the wonderful Thais Gibson. She mentions several dysfunctional strategies in there, for example “never enough” components (“I’m never going to be thin enough / big enough / rich enough / clever enough / … “, no matter how much energy I put into.) On the other …

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Prices for chasing emotionally unavailable women

For behaving in ways which are not well-adjusted to this world and self-damaging, we pay prices. It is important to visualize such prices. Chasing emotionally unavailable women (and exclusively focusing on them, while pushing available women away) is a self-defeating behavior. I have analyzed the prices I keep paying to keep my behavior up today. …

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Horsewhisperer

I’ve stumbled across a great blog about horses yesterday: Pferdeflüsterei (in German). It came at a great point in my life, reminding me about some fundamental truths of humanity & compassion. I think a lot of the things about a relationship with a horse (for example being fair, not putting it under pressure, understanding it’s …

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An important video about Self Defeating Behaviors

This is the very best video I have found about dealing with self-defeating behaviors quickly and efficiently. I am right now dealing with procrastination (more specifically decision phobia). (My wrong conclusion: “Not deciding keeps me safe because I can’t make a mistake and stay in control until I decide”) I’ll post more material on this …

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